Australian nurse, Bonnie Ware counselled patients during the last days leading to their deaths. She noted that when asked about regrets, there were common themes in patients’ responses. The top five regrets were:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
The good news is that you do not have to be on your deathbed to evaluate the way you have been living your life. Each moment presents the opportunity for change – to transform a possible regret into a joy. And while it is true that creating something new may mean the death of some aspect of life, it is a necessity. The death of the night signals the birth of the day, and the birth of the new you comes only after you shed a part of yourself.
So what’s it going to be today? 1. Do something YOU want to do. 2. Leave work by 5:00PM. 3. Tell someone how you feel? 4. Call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. 5. Have fun.
The choice is yours; but remember, you do not have forever to decide.