Whether we are aware of it or not, our beliefs strongly influence our actions, which in turn direct the way our life unfolds. The word “beliefs” contains within it the letters that can form: I, SEE, FEEL, LIFE, BE, LIE. If we allow these words to provide us with clues, we may see that: What I believe becomes my life. Beliefs define how I see myself and what I feel. My beliefs govern who I think I am and how I will be. The problem is that unfortunately, many of our beliefs are simply lies.
Am I really less beautiful if I gain 20 pounds or develop new wrinkles? What is beauty?
Am I less successful if I don’t get that promotion? What is success?
Am I too old to find love and share my life with someone? Where is the rulebook on this one?
If we allow ourselves to bring in greater awareness to our thoughts, we may discover that the things we believe to be true are simply beliefs that have been passed on by our parents, family, friends and society.
Early on you may have believed in the Tooth Fairy, that teachers knew everything, that you would marry prince charming (or his beautiful counterpart) and live happily ever after without ever having a single argument, and that your baby brother or sister was a special delivery from a neighborhood stork. Most likely, by now, you’ve probably figured out that none of these were ever true.
But what happened to the other beliefs that you were taught either directly or silently through the actions and words of those around you? Boys don’t cry. Good girls don’t speak up. One should be married by a certain age. Don’t trust people. Money is the root of all evil. There aren’t enough hours in the day. You’re lazy if you’re not always doing something, or nothing ever goes my way, so why even try? And to paraphrase a High School teacher of mine, you’re born, suffer, and then you die.
Could it be that you are unconsciously not only holding on to untrue beliefs, but feeling the emotions that result, and creating your everyday reality?
Stem cell biologist Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., in The Biology of Belief, writes “The learned behaviors and beliefs acquired from other people, such as parents, peers and teachers, may not support the goals of our conscious mind.” He states that these subconscious beliefs are the biggest impediments to fulfilling the dreams we may have for our life and that “These limitations not only influence our behavior, they can also play a major role in determining our physiology and health.”
So, if there is an area in your life that isn’t quite how you’d hoped it would be, you may want to start by paying attention to your beliefs. Ask yourself, is this really how I feel or think? Challenge yourself and dig deeper to find the source of the belief and whether it resonates as truth for you.
If your belief is based on falsehoods, it will probably not feel very good; if it is based in truth, you may find it will support you in living a purposeful, peaceful and joyous life. By examining your beliefs and consciously choosing the ones that you will believe, you simultaneously create and walk the path to finding yourself in the life you want to live.
Will tomorrow be a great or crappy day? Dare to believe that it may be up to you. It’s your choice, whether you belief it or not!
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