As a life coach, I constantly see that regardless of the reasons why a client comes to see me, fear will invariably rear its offensive head as the obstacle standing between the individual and his or her desires and happiness. Whether it is the need to feel better, improve relationships, pursue a dream, or connect with greater purpose and meaning, eventually we discover that fear is at the core of the issue.
Fear can be a tricky opponent as it has the ability to camouflage in order to remain hidden. While at times it is out in the open, more often than not it is quite deceitful, disguising itself in numerous ways such as judgment, control, apathy, indecisiveness, isolation, busyness and self sabotage.
To see the role that fear may be playing in your life, start by asking:
What is something that I want to change or improve on that I am struggling with?
Ex: I want to be able to express my feelings more clearly to my significant other. I want to start working on my book idea, but I can’t seem to get motivated. I can’t seem to get healthier.
Follow it up with:
What might be a negative effect of doing or achieving what I say I want?
For instance, if I expressed my feelings, I might be rejected or ridiculed. The answer to your question will start revealing the true nature of the fear you have associated with the area that you want to improve.
This thought process may sound absurd at first, but if you play along you will discover that there will be a perceived negative result attached to fulfilling your desire; if it were not the case, this would not be an issue for you.
Merriam-Webster defines offend as “to cause difficulty, discomfort or injury” and “to transgress the moral or divine law.” Fear that goes unchecked will always produce these effects. It will cause emotional, mental and/or spiritual pain. It will lead us to ignore or violate the nature of our true selves, which is of love and joy.
Nothing can come between us and the fulfillment of who we really are, reflected in the life we create, more than fear. Truly the most offensive four-letter word.
Before you decide to throw in the towel, there is good news. Fear has an Achilles heel.
If we can summon the strength to discover and challenge it, it loses its power.
Fear grows in the dark. Its shadows scare us into mediocrity and even paralysis, but if we shine the light of awareness onto it, we might be relieved to find the proverbial Wizard of Oz standing behind the curtain or the courage to take the steps needed to overcome it. Most importantly, you might even discover that the most powerful weapon in rising above fear is already in you. It is another four-letter word starting with an L. Can you guess what it is?image courtesy: freedigitalphotos.net/pal2iyawit